Monday, December 5, 2011


Elementary schools rarely give out letter grades. The reasoning is to encourage kids to do well in school without having the stressor of grades, to feed their natural love of learning and help them to enjoy school.
Of course there has to be some sort of keeping track of a students progress, so typically parents receive a report card a few times each year.
Most teachers give some form of "grade" on the top of the paper, be it a star, a smiley face, or a number. Occasionally teachers will give a percentage on papers, but many more frequently use a 1-4 (or similar) "grading scale" that the show the kids. 1 being below standard and 4 being exceptional. But this just as easily causes stress as letter grades do. And, like with letter grades, teachers never seem to be on the same page.
In middle and high school students learn to understand that they will have to work harder for some teachers than for others. That every teacher grades differently and hold students to different standards. This concept isnt easy to grasp for an elementary student. Josie is only in 2nd grade. She is an exceptional student. And its not just me being partial, I swear! The first time I met her I realized very quickly that she is definatley above average for her grade level. She is one of the oldest kids in her class which may give her a slight advantage, but most of it is just natural intelligence. She can easily read most 3rd/4th grade books. She picks up a new task quickly and seemingly without effort and rarely has to be reminded again. So I know that she should be frequently getting the highest possible marks.
But shes not. Shes bringing home almost all 3's. But in looking through the work, its all perfectly correct. Yet she isnt getting 4's. Michelle asked the teacher at conferences what Josie could do to improve her school performance and get 4's. And do you know what the teacher said? "Oh, she really cant get 4's, none of the kids can." She went on to explain that the highest number she will give out is a 3, if they were getting 4's they would already be in 3rd grade.
This bothers me. You are hanging a number in her face and saying "This is the best you can be, the highest grade you can get" and then turning around and telling her she will never be good enough to get it.
I could probably let it go. It annoys me, but I could get over it. I know that teachers differ in their grading styles. But its bothering Josie. And that bothers me. She feels like she is getting "dumber" because she got all 4's in 1st grade and now she is getting all 3's in 2nd. She is petrified of 3rd grade because she thinks she will get 2's.
There isnt a lot to be done about the whole situation, really. All we can do is re-assure Josie that she IS smart and is doing everything to the very best of her ability, and explain that some teachers just have different rules, it doesnt make her dumb. And hopefully make sure the teacher tells her the same.


If you use a reward program in your classroom, please be considerate in what "prizes" you are giving. Especially in a developmental therapy classroom where many kids have behavior and hyperactivity issues, a giant tub of cotton candy isnt the best idea.

Thursday, November 17, 2011

You know what I hate?

School fundraisers.
Ok, thats not entirely true. I think that the idea behind them is great. Earn money for your school. But there is a huge flaw in the way that these things are executed.
Fundraisers used to be bake sales and car washes. Concessions at football games or high school band members selling cookie dough. Then came the gift wrap. Catalogs full of gift wrap and candy, passed out to middle school kids who were told to sell to everyone they could corner. But they're not going to do it without bribery. Errr.... encouragement? So a parade of "prizes" is flashed before their eyes; from cheap, dollar store quality frisbees, to flat screen tv's! Yes, children, you can have

Your very own flat screen television if you just sell 1,000 items at $20 each. Piece of cake for a 13 year old, right?
At least by middle school the kids are somewhat self-sufficient, they can go out and do the selling themselves, and they also have more of an understanding of the improbability of getting the top prize.
But the problems is that these ridiculous competitions are not only reserved for teenagers. No, the majority of elementary schools now host catalog fundraisers. Waving shiny toys in front of 7 year olds and saying "You can HAVE this! I
f you sell lots of things, that is." Or rather, if your parents have the time to sell things for you. And your family and friends have the money to buy the overly priced garbage. If not? Sorry, kid. The expectations put on elementary ages kids is ridiculous. I know that a portion of the money goes to the school and im all for that. I worked at an elementary school where we got 10 new computers for our computer lab through fundraisers! Thats GREAT! I saw all of the kids benefit from that. But I also saw many children crying because they didnt get the prize they wanted, or werent able to sell anything at all. Parents dont always have the time to help, and many times dont have the money, as much as they would like to. I support tangible fundraisers. BoxTops and Cambells Soup labels are great, easy ways to earn money for school. But dont make the kids compete at such a young age whe
n they arent even in control of their own selling abilities.
What started me on this tangent today?

This is my nephew. He's pretty much the coolest kid ever. He was born 2 days after my birthday, and is the best present i've ever gotten. I love him. Im insanely protective of him.
His mom asked me today if I liked Scentsy. It seems that Kayden's PRESCHOOL is doing a fundraiser selling Scentsy products. Only the top three sellers will get prizes (A Scentsy Buddy stuffed animal), and the teacher is allowing her own children to compete. These are 3-5 year olds! What is WRONG with people!? A part of me wants to buy every damn thing out of the catalog so he wins by a landslide. Another part of me wants to punch the teacher in the face. Mostly I just want to buy him one of the stuffed toys and tell him to just do his best, and that fundraisers are really meant for older kids. Ugh.

Thursday, November 3, 2011


I read a post yesterday on Be A Good Mom about just being overwhelmed as a parent and housewife. She ponders if she should only blog about the happy times, or be real and honest, and then talks about daily life struggles that we all deal with. Here is part of my reply:
Ive worked since I was 14 and always enjoyed working. So when I landed in a kind of stay at home mom position with my partner and kids, it was strange. I found myself really loving it, to my surprise. But then id find myself snapping at the kids (5 and 7) for making a mess the minute they got home when I spent all day cleaning. Or begging my partner to go somewhere together when she got home,, even grocery shopping,, just to get out of the house. But she worked all day teaching high schoolers and just wants to relax.
Now i’ve doubled the duty. Im working again, as a live-in nanny for 5 kids. Kids are my passion and I love the job, but im constantly exhausted and at my wits end more than id like to admit. I have girls that are 3 and 4 that require much more assistance than im used to. Yes, they can play by themselves, but they still need me to help them do so many things and are either questioning or complaining most of the time (I am thankful there are two of them, at least.) Ive got a 7 year old boy with behavioral issues that is home half day, and he wants my undivided constant attention. Since hes missing school half the day I have to fight with him to do extra schoolwork at home to keep him on track. Then after school the other two 6 year old boys get here, and then its just pandemonium.
Its a struggle to find balance and solace for sure. I thought joining the gym would be a great escape…. but im too exhausted to enjoy it. But there are great times where I find bribes or rewards that work so perfectly either at work or home, and it makes the next week or so run smoothly till I lose it again and go zombie for a while, and then another solution to something comes up.
And, when all else fails, they get pizza and a movie for dinner and I get a bottle of wine!

There are some days at work where I do feel like im going to lose it a bit. But I get through it and the next day comes and goes, and I make it home on the weekends and remind myself that the kids are acting crazy there because they miss me all week, theyre not just misbehaving. And We work through it all.

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

Gender binaries and children

Beware workers of fast food chains. If I happen to overhear you asking "Would you like a girls toy or boys toy?" Youre going to get an earful. Likewise, if you automatically give little girls Barbie toys and little boys Transformers, prepare for a speech. It is NOT difficult to ask "Would you like a Barbie toy or a Transformers toy?" A few more syllables in your sentence wont kill you. And the little girl who wants the race car or the little boy who wants the Little Pet Shop dog wont feel like embarrassed. When my nephew was younger he really enjoyed dolls. We were at McDonalds once and he got some "boy" toy in his meal but he knew that they had Madame Alexander doll for toys as well. So we went up to the counter and this awesome three year old put the toy he got on the counter and told the worker he wanted a doll instead.
Recently the kids came home from Burger King with crowns. Those crowns were a big part of my childhood, I remember being almost more excited for a crown than a toy when we went to Burger King. So when the kids came in I told them how cool they were... and then I took a closer look. The crowns I grew up with, that existed for years, were a uniform gold with colored jewels and the logo on them. Not anymore. Now they are decorated with the cartoon characters that promote the restaurant. But theres another difference. And its a big one to me. There are now "prince" crowns and "princess" crowns. Alex's crown was the same basic shape as the original, but Josie's was shaped more like a tiara, thinner and coming up to a point in the middle. There is NO reason for this! Kids of all ages and genders used to play with the gold crowns, I doubt there was EVER a complaint that they were too masculine. And its NOT about womens-lib and making sure that the girls are equal. With one design everyone was equal. Now, theyre segregated. This makes me think about Egalia again and wish that we could have more of that perspective here. To open peoples minds and let our kids grow to be who they really are, without the stressors of gender.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Finished Josie's mirror!

I was planning to make it really princessy and whatnot... but I love this so much more!

Change of pace.

I disappeared for a bit! Longer than planned, thats for sure. At first I just had a few personal things to deal with, but then I ended up.... with a job! Woohoo! I started on Tuesday as a live-in nanny for a family in Kennewick. Yup, live-in. I have a bedroom here. Monday morning-Friday evening this is where im at, and then I get to go home to Prosser on the weekends (today will be my first attempt at taking the bus from Kennewick to Prosser, I hope it pull it off!) Anyways. So im here all week. There are FIVE kids! Three are adopted with the same bio mom- girls 3 and 4 and boy 6. One biological boy age 6, and a long-term foster boy age 7. Its a busy house to say the least! I have the girls from about 8:30-5:30 every day. The 7 year old is in a behavioral program at school and home half days and all day on Wednesdays, and the other two boys get home at 3:40. For the most part its gone really well. Yesterday was tiring, everyone was wound up for some reason. But theyre good kids.
I started getting sick last night and feel like hell today, though, and im more than ready to go HOME!

Friday, October 7, 2011

Apparently its Christmas time...

... or so the kids seem to think!

When I got home on Wednesday I noticed that there were Christmas decorations everywhere. Wait a second... isnt it OCTOBER!?!?! What the heck happened to Halloween?
Evidently they couldnt find the Halloween decorations, and this was their solution. Thankfully, I brought Halloween decorations with me. So Christmas has been temporarily banished to the office, until the day after Halloween at least. When I was growing up my mom decorated for every holiday. We seriously had presidents day decorations! So I have always been pretty rigid when it comes to decorating. Halloween stuff goes up October 1st. The day after Halloween those decorations come down and Thanksgiving things go up. The day after Thanksgiving its Christmas all the way through the last day of January! But Michelle said "Why not decorate early? Its always sad in January to take the Christmas things down.... lets just enjoy them longer." And of course the kids are more than on board. So we reached the compromise of waiting until the day after Halloween.
All of this Christmas talk DOES have me thinking though. I still dont have a job and December really is fast approaching. I need to find present solutions soon. Since I am low on cash im making what I can, and my first project is under way:
I bought this mirror at Goodwill for $8 and sanded it down. Im gonna throw on a primer and custom paint it for Josie. Im working on getting a cool old metal toolbox from my dad so I can paint that up for Alex. I also really want to get my old fishtank running for them, but im going to have to investigate exactly what that entails. My dad's girlfriend, BK, is going to help me make PJ's for the kids, and that should be fun. I do want to buy them each one thing, I want to get J an MP3 player and A a building kit. If I can accomplish most of that I will be happy! Only 79 days till Christmas! lol

Addressing gender and sexuality with kids

With school in full swing and many of my friends involved in Diversity Programming at the college level, Ive spent a fair amount of time discussing various issues in relation to gender and sexuality recently. (I also spend way too much time watching documentaries on Netflix these days!) But these are subject very close to my heart. My own struggle with gender identity has been a big part of my life in the past year. As a child I was very tomboy-ish. I did have a few girly tendencies, but they were few and far between. As I grew older I became more "masculine". I came out as a lesbian between ages 11 and 13. I had very short hair that I wore in a mohawk and only wore boys clothes for almost ten years. Ive always liked girls clothes and shoes, just not so much on me. the then earlier this spring I went through a bit of a personal revelation and experimenting time. I bought and wore a couple skirts and grew my hair out. I still have the skirts, but dont wear them often. I really enjoy them, its just harder for me to move. My hair is long, and the back is dreaded. I miss my short hair at times, but im excited to see how the dreads turn out.
I really enjoy attending functions in larger cities or at the college and experience gender in all of its wonderful fluidity. Because gender IS fluid. Theres no reason why I cant wear a dress one day and a suit the next. Gender and sexuality can interact with each other, and they can also be completely different entities. (I wont even go into biological sex and psychological gender right now!)
Anyways. All this has me thinking about kids and gender. Josie is as pretty much as girly as girly can get. Now she WILL wear jeans/pants, but its always in a feminine outfit. She doesnt like to play with "boy" toys, or read books or watch tv shows that are too "boyish". She nags Michelle and I on occasion for not being girly enough. Alex definatley has many stereotypical boy behaviors. He is always filthy, always running and playing hard. Very accident prone. He loves to build things and break things. But hes also willing, on many occasions, to dress up and play barbies with his sister.
Recently Egalia Preschool in Sweden was the focus of many news programs and gender activists around the world. The program at Egalia encourages gender neutrality. They do not use gender describing pronouns such as HE or SHE. All of the children are instead referred to as "friends". The barbies and blocks are intermixed for play. They do not read books about fairytale princesses, but focus on strong family books the frequently highlight gay couples, single parents, and other types of families. The goal is for kids to reach their highest potential without any barriers presented by gender. I really love and value this idea. Its a wonderful way to raise children.
But how do you approach the subject of gender to children that are older and set in their ways? I give J the example of her mom, who wears womens clothing but the femininity is fairly muted. I also use myself as an example, 90% of my clothing is mens. We always encourage A to play dress up and that its okay. I have to wonder though, if there is something more we could be doing to educate them?

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Sign on the dotted line....

I was going through Josie's homework tonight and found her September reading calendar. She is supposed to read with an adult for 20 minutes a day at least 20 days out of the month. She read at least that much. She reads in the car on the way to school, and I read with her frequently at night. Each time she reads Michelle or I sign off on the calendar. So many days she has a signature for the morning and the evening. But a lot of the time there is only one on any given day, and occasionally there is a blank day. Well when I looked at the September reading calendar that she had turned in and the teacher had returned to her, something wasnt quite right. Every single day had two "signatures" on it. Josie had written Michelle's name in every empty square. An important thing to note here is that her handwriting, even at 7.5, is immaculate. The teacher truly believed that the signatures were written by an adult. She got credit for 14 days of writing that she didnt do. I pointed it out to Michelle. We both just looked at it. She called Josie in and asked why she had done that. Josie said "I did the reading at school, when you werent there." Michelle explained that, first of all, it doesnt matter WHAT the reason, you never sign someone else's name. And then I had her read the instructions at the top of the page, stopping for emphasis at the part that says "read at home with an adult." So once that was cleared up Michelle told Josie to go get a stack of books from her room, because she was going to make up for all of the time that she signed off on herself. So Josie spent a couple hours yesterday afternoon reading and logging the books and writing a couple sentence long synopsis of each book. Then last night before bed she read a chapter out of a Junie B Jones book with me so that I can sign off on her October calendar. Its gonna be double reading time for a couple days! But I doubt she will try that stunt again!

Home again!

Ive been a bit out of the loop in the past couple weeks! First Michelles parents came and we had the balloon rally weekend, then there was a bit of a lull and recoup for a few days, then we headed over to Seattle to have Alex's cast removed, and finally I got dropped in good ol' Eburg for a short visit. Now im home again and trying to get back into the swing of things!
The balloon rally was a blast. Friday afternoon Michelle's mom and her husband arrived with their trailer. When Michelle and the kids got home from school we all went walked downtown and looked at some of the street fair booths and had dinner. The kids had a chance to hang out with a group of other kids and go to a street dance Friday night and they had a blast with that! Saturday morning we watched the balloons take off and fly over the river across the road and then went to Farmers Market. After the market the kids when back to the house with their grandparents and Michelle and I got our first chance ever for some kid-free time! So what do you do at 10:30am in Prosser when you're finally kid free? Go wine tasting! Yup. Thats what we did. And then walked down by the river a bit, picking blackberries, and came home. It was a nice morning. Went back to the street fair later in the day and Saturday night was the Night Glow festival at the local high school. Five balloons light up in the dark and its really awesome. Sunday morning we got up early to watch the balloons take flight again but the weather was gross so they didnt take off. Late in the morning the grandparents left and we spent most of the rest of the day just relaxing and re-couping from the weekend!
It was a pretty un-eventful week until Thursday when we headed over the pass to Seattle to get Alex's cast removed! We stayed on the 31st floor of the Westin downtown, which was pretty much the coolest thing ever for me. Had dinner Thursday night at a cool restaurant close to the hotel and then I took the kids swimming while Michelle relaxed in the room. Alex was thrilled that I let him swim, it didnt take too much effort to get him in the water and keep the cast out. Friday morn we headed straight to Seattle Childrens Hospital and had breakfast there. Then Josie and I hung out in the Sibling Playroom doing crafts and whatnot while A saw the doctor. Finally he came out, sans cast! Doctors orders are to baby the arm for the next month while it heals and then go back to check range of motion and whatnot. But having the cast off is excitement enough!
On the way home Michelle dropped me off in Ellensburg for a few days. I saw friends I dont get to see often anymore, and got my dreadlocks started! Woohoo! I got back to Prosser just yesterday and it feels good to be home. Spent the day cleaning and organizing, as well as taking a new path on the job hunt. Im looking into being a nanny in the Tri Cities area! I absolutley love it and if I work it right I will have very similar hours Michelle and the kids' :)
Heres some pics:

Thursday, September 22, 2011

Getting organized!

Sometimes I feel like a slave driver :)
After working for three years in Behavioral Kindergarten my expectations can be ridiculously high at times. I have to find the right balance in everyday life between just enough and too much. Especially right now where im coming into a pre-existing family that have their own ways. Alex comes home with daily "homework" of tracing and writing his name a few times. Once a week Josie gets a sheet of simple math problems and a kinder-level spelling list to practice. She is reading at a 3rd grade level. The spelling words for her class are things like "it" and "of". Seriously. So I went online and printed a bunch of worksheets at their current levels and a little bit above so we can do a sheet every night. I also found a Brain Quest deck laying around ages 5-6 to use with Alex and I made a journal for Josie. She likes to write so I hope shes into this. I wrote a question on each page and asked her to answer in writing and supplement with a picture if she likes, and said she can write about her day on the back of each page if she wants to. They havent really seen most of it yet so we'll see how it goes tonight.
I've been having them clean up their rooms in the 10 minutes before bed every night and so far that is going great. I made a calendar to show how long they can wear articles of clothing (1 wear for underwear and socks, 1 day for clothes, 2 days for PJ's, 1 week for jackets) and they are paying attention to it and it is helping cut down on laundry! I also hung a picture of a lightbulb with the word "OFF" printed on it by string in the middle of their doorways to remind them to turn off the lights. Alex has been a been a pro so far, Josie is getting there.
Little things make a big difference and make the day go smoother, and let my girl relax a bit when she gets home from work :)

Cleaning break!

Im should be cleaning right now... but i've been cleaning (and organizing, and weeding, and other stuff....) since like 7:30 this morning. So im taking a break! Why all the busy-ness? The Prosser Hot Air Balloon rally and street fair are this weekend, and Michelle's mom and her husband are coming to town! Its the first time ive met any of her family and I want to make a good impression, and having the house clean is a start!! Im not really nerous to meet her mom, she has been supportive of our relationship and seems like a really cool person. So we'll see how all THAT goes! An extra plus to having them here is that Michelle and I might get a night out without the kids, which we've never had. So that would be pretty nice! I absolutely love having them around at every minute, but its fun to have alone time on occasion :)

Wednesday, September 21, 2011

Home renovation frusturations

In early July my partner Michelle posted on craigslist looking for someone to help finish the basement in her house. She needed two rooms to be turned into four, creating a bedroom, bathroom/laundry room, living area, and storage area. She got bids from a few people and decided on a young man named Jonathan. His quote wasnt the lowest or the highest but he seemed like a good person and assuresd Michelle that he could do all of the work himself and that it would take about 12 days, start to finish, and that he would be there from 8am-5pm every day. He was to start on July 18th at 8am.
Around noon on the 18th he text Michelle and said that he had forgotten he had an appointment that day and was very sorry, he would be there the next day. The next day he got there around noon. This cycle progressed as time went on. He showed up on and off, but nowhere near full time. Twice he took jobs elsewhere which also cut into the time he was working here. While working here he also ran into multiple issues. A few of those have to do with it being an old house, that is understandable. But the majority of the issues were his incompetencies. Things he had said he would be able to do he ended up not being able to do. He had to call in plumbers, which cost more in labor. He had to do things twice because he messed them up the first time. He would drive 20 min to the hardware store, come back, and realize he had forgotten something or bought the wrong thing.
He FREQUENTLY bought the wrong things. Gold doorknobs instead of silver. A cabinet sink instead of a pedestal. He bought a corner shower base and glass walls/door when he was supposed to build a walk-in shower. Many of these things were much more expensive than they should have been. Michelle bought hardwood laminate flooring for the entire downstairs and tile for the whole bathroom and a few weeks in Jonathan decided the floor wasnt level enough and she needed to get carpet. So all of the flooring was returned (except for a couple boxes of tile to go under the washer and dryer and around the shower and toilet) and carpet and carpet pad was bought.
After about eight weeks of "work" (when it was supposed to take 12 days) Michelle told Jonathan that he had more than exceeded his labor cap and she wasnt able to pay him anymore. Between labor and supplies she had paid out double what the bid was. He agreed to this and said he would continue to work until the job was finished even though he was no longer being paid.
Yesterday, September 20th, he was here for about an hour and left He text Michelle when he left and said that he quit; he was no longer able to work for free and he felt "bullied" by her asking daily what the progress was and when he would finish. He left a huge pile of garbage in the back yard and a disaster downstairs. Before this started there was at least one useable room downstairs plus a toilet and utility sink. Now there arent really any useable rooms, everything is covered in dust and theres stuff laying everywhere. I got the washer and dryer hooked up but theyre sitting in the middle of the room, and there is no working sink or toilet.
After spending twice the amount on this project than originally planned there is now an empty savings account, half-finished basement, and piles of garbage in the yard, which we have no truck to remove.
What needs to be finished: The living area and bathroom need walls and ceilings finished and sanded down. Jonathan "forgot" to put heating vents in the living room and closed up all the walls, so we have to put the vents in. He left one wall in the bathroom open and we need to close that. There is a light that needs to be installed in the living room. The baseboards need to be put up in the living room. The stairs, living room, bedroom, and bathroom need to be padded and carpeted. The tile needs to be laid around the shower and under the washer and dryer in the bathroom. The sink and toilet need to be installed in the bathroom and the shower put together. The doors and doorways need to be finished. Some of the corkboard on the ceiling in the closet in the bedroom is falling apart and needs to be replaced. The windows in the bedroom need to be replaced. Everything needs to be painted. We are going to have Home Depot come install the carpet once everything is ready, but it will be a while before that happens. There is much to do right now and most of it neither of us have ever done before, so I am hoping to find friends and family members able to at least help us get started.
Not only is this frusturating because its taken so long and so much money and still isnt done (especially with Michelles parents coming to stay for the weekend), but because of the way that the job was handled and the way it was left. Its going to be a high-stress few weeks.
Pictures of basement

Saturday, September 17, 2011

Spotlight on: Josie

Oh, the wonderful world of little girls! Its a new experience to me, really. My life has always been swarmed by little boys, girls require a whole new game plan! She's 7.5 and in second grade, with the reading level of at least a third grader. She is incredibly intelligent, and its all natural. She doesnt have to work at it at all. She loves math and reading. She loves to dance and perform. She will sit on youtube for hours choreographing dances to music videos (and shes quite good, actually!) She loves music and teen tv shows. Obsessed with the movie 16 Wishes (there are lists of her 16 Wishes hidden EVERYWHERE in this house!) as well as Monster High. She gets pretty fashionista with her clothes and loves to mix and match. She mentally tries to be 16 and has the attitude to match on occasion, but she is a truly sweet girl. She is very emotionally attuned with people and very internally sensitive as well. She takes the world on her shoulders at times. But she is also super loving and caring. She will definatley go far in life!

Spotlight on: Alex

What a kid! 5.5 and he's just starting kindergarten this year after two years of pre-k, and hes SO excited about it! He comes home every day with lists and lists of things that he's learned at school, he just cant get enough. He is a very critical and logical thinker and good at figuring things out. He is a very compassionate and caring child. Every person and animal has a special place in his heart. He adores his sister, just lives for her. Shes all he ever wants to talk about, except for maybe whales and starfish! He is very loving, always saying "I love you" and asking for hugs. Hes into the Hulk and Spiderman like any boy, but youre more likely to find him tuning into i-Carly and calling his sister over to watch together! Hes got his own unique sense of fashion but he is very specific about it! He likes polo and dress shirts, almost ALWAYS tucked in (and frequently worn with basketball shorts!)

Friday, September 16, 2011

Spotlight on: Michelle

Ahhh, my love :) She is everything to me!
She is smart and funny. She is a total foodie, she watches all sorts of food shows and loves to cook. She loves wine. A music and theatre fan as well, and both of our favourite show is Rent! She loves to travel and has lived in Mexico and Ecuador. Speaks fluent Spanish and is currently a Spanish teacher, though she aspires to other things. Shes been to some amazing places. Shes so incredibly smart, a combination of a LOT of schooling and some great life experiences. Shes got a slight Scottish accent from a past relationship and I think its absolutely adorable. Shes a wonderful mother and loves her kids more than life itself. She always makes me laugh and makes me feel good about myself. She encourages me to do the things I love, to follow my hopes and dreams.... shes fantastic :-)

Spotlight on: ME!

Who am I? Well, thats a LOADED question!
Im 23. Adopted at birth. Grew up on a small farm in Ellensburg with my two parents, no siblings. Later in life met my biological (maternal) family and am good friends with all of them. My (adoptive) mom died from cancer when I was 17. My dad recently got engaged to a woman he's known since primary school. Im a daddy's girl for sure!
I was a spoiled but good-hearted adolecent and a troublesome teen. I came out as a lesbian when I was 11 years old. I have a neurological disorder that causes an array of issues, but theyre all things ive learned to cope with.
I am an aspiring American Sign Language (ASL) interpreter and completely in love with Deaf culture.
I have recently started playing roller derby and it is a huge passion in my life right now.
Music is the breath of life for me. I love to read, and am a theatre nut. I have a passion for travel, though I havent done nearly as much as i'd like to.
I am a social person and love meeting new people.
I call myself a "Half Blood Hippie" because I have many "hippie" views, but not all. I wash my hair with baking soda and condition with apple cider vinegar and am preparing for dreadlocks. I use organic castile or goats milk soap, and try to avoid chemicals and additives in my daily life. Im moving closer every day towards an organic lifestyle. I am Neo-Pagan and believe in a higher power, though I dont really know what that is.
Most of all, I love my life and all the people in it :)

What does a lesbian bring on a second date?

... A U-HAUL!!!

This is one of the longest running lesbian jokes around, but it is definatley seated in truth. It has to do with the emotional nature of women, the ease of comfort and attachment that is common between two women. Because of that quick connection, lesbians have a tendancy to pack up all their stuff and move in at the drop of a hat.
Not me, of course. Oh no, not this time. I waited.
Until the third date.
Thats relative, though. Because we have yet to go out on a date. We began contact through the internet and the first time that we met in person, I stayed with her for the weekend. And then after going back to my own house for a few days, I spent a week with her. Another couple days apart and I came back.... and never left.

Of course all sorts of mushy-gushy stuff happened in that three week period. But the important part is, im here now! Its been just over a month and we're living together and doing the family thing!
Yep, thats right. "The Family Thing". My partner has two kids. Two beautiful, smart, adoring children that I absolutley love.
This is my life now.... and I wouldnt have it any other way.
I'm loving every minute of it!